Closing Cycles
By Paulo Coelho

 

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on
staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it,
what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have
finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end?
Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting
friendship ended all of sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell
yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things
that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust,
just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone
involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children,
your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves,
getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a
standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even
when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed
will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons
that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night
relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least
intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is
why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs,
move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you
have at home.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world,
of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also
means taking some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this
life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not
expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated,
your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on
your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again,
the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only
poisoning you, nothing else. Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting
love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is
no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal
moment. Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell
yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a
time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable.
A habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it
is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply
because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record,
clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change
into who you are.

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Yesterday I was thinking. What do you have to do to create an effective New Years resolution? Does a person have to be blind drunk on New Years Eve to figure out what their goals are for the new year? What is a “New Years Resolution”?

What is a New Year’s Resolution?

“A New Year’s Resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advantageous. The name comes from the fact that these commitments normally go into effect on New Year’s Day and remain until the set goal has been achieved, although many resolutions go unachieved and are often broken fairly shortly after they are set…” – Wikipedia

Saying and describing a New Years resolution is one thing but doing it is another.

How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

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one_way_jesus

Originally uploaded by cadelina.
Been seeing this window with this sign ‘One Way Jesus’ for the past 10years. Located in The Rocks next to the southern end of the Harbour Bridge. You’ll see the apartment building on your left as you travel from North Sydney going south.





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Native plants

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